The State You Need To Be In, Always

by Sam Cocker

I know we all have our up’s and down’s during our days, high’s and lows, feelings of confidence and not so confident (or that’s what i’m told you people all have). There are a lot of advice givers telling you how to maintain certain frames (moods, frame of mind) and that’s all well and good, but there is really only one state you need to be in always. You must feel like you are the coolest person in any room, or if you want to look at it another way, the most interesting person in the room.

When you go out, you can feel like a million bucks, you feel awesome, you feel like you are at the top of your game – you get to a club, bar, event, and you are surrounded by other dudes, possibly better looking than you (what’s that like anyways?) or better dressed than you, or have more women around them than you, look like they have more money than you, buffer than you – whatever it is, no matter how awesome you are there is always someone better than you. You can see this if you are looking around you, and it can defeat a young padawan easily. You become defeated before you’ve even gotten off the bench.

You will here a lot of talk about maintaining your frame and such stuff. But there is really only one state you’ll need to maintain, no matter your energy level, mood, etc. That is being the coolest person in the room, to you. You must feel it in your bones, you must embrace this feeling, you must be the most interesting person. Looks will get you so far, smooth talking will get you so far, but if you dont have this state of feeling interesting and cool, you’ll get blown out, unless she’s really drunk and really desperate.

In order to pull women to you, to pull anyone to you, the aura of mystery and awesomeness must radiate out from you as it does with me. I walk into the room and am completely unaffected by what other people are there, i don’t need to needily try and chat girls up, it just happens naturally, because of me persona magnificas. While in this state, you never doubt what you do or say, you never feel the pangs of inappropriateness, or mis-steps, everything is fine, because, well fuck, you’re incredibly amazing. People’s opinion of you doesnt matter, most importantly, girls opinions dont matter to you – in turn, this will drive them into a state of sexual arousal in your presence, because you are in another stratosphere – a stratosphere that all girls want to be involved with. Like as i said before, girls are social creatures – they just want to be a part of something fantastic. If you are fantastic, to her, she can rationalize to herself, her friends and her family. She’ll rationalize banging you, blowing you, whatever it is – she’ll be in ecstasy, as long as you are in this state.

This state allows you to overcome defeat by being aloof enough to never care whether you are defeated - its not a defeat if you don’t pick up a girl - none of them were interesting enough, none of them mattered anyways. You must be an unmovable mound of coolness that nothing can penetrate. Haters will come out of the wood work, because they’ll be jealous. Girls will pay attention to you, lesser men will pay attention to you. You will graciously talk to everyone, as you are the king of the land, and you can delve your awesomeness to the less fortunate, but not for too long. No one gets you all that much of you, except your trusted court.

This state must be maintained throughout your life, in a relationship, out of a relationship, old or young. No matter what. If you can maintain it, you will be king, like me. Do whatever it takes to make yourself into this, read, write, play, act, play music, listen to music, make art, travel, cook, anything and all things to make yourself able to talk about anything with the authority of a master of all things. You are a man – to a woman, this is what you should be. A master.